Unfortunately, in our society we're not usually taught how to create a wholesome successful relationship unless we were 
fortunate enough to have great role models. And what is the essence of a good relationship anyway? Why do we come together in relationship? We are social beings and are driven by our desire to get our needs met in both a receiving and giving way.
So how can people start doing relationships differently, so that there is more ease and love between the interactions not only between couples, but all people?
It’s A Basic Need
According to Gary Chapman* an anthropologist who travelled the world, there are five primary love languages that he discovered during his travels.
Emotional love is a basic need (Maslow’s triangle) that all human beings need to have fulfilled. As babies if this need is not met, as well as other needs, there have been cases in orphanages where babies have died even though their physical needs had been met.
Most of us experience falling in love and expect the relationship to continue to be happy ever after. Unfortunately, this is a myth as falling in love is an instinctual drive for procreation and the chemical high can’t last. After the high our need for emotional love needs to get met by fulfilling each others’ primary love language otherwise the love tank will drain after the in-love phase. If we don’t feel loved in our relationship we can become a threat to each others’ happiness and fight for self-worth and recognition.
The Key
Identifying how you love to receive love and knowing how your loved ones’ like to receive love especially your partner, has a profound effect on people’s lives.
When our love tank is filled
· issues diminish
· it’s easier to listen to the other’s point of view
· and look for a win-win solution
· it reduces stress
· there is more concern and care for each other
· self-worth and security increases
· it gives more meaning to life
· it brings out the best in people
Knowing your primary love language is a must in helping to create a loving lasting relationship for singles or deepen love and intimacy for couples.
The 5 love languages are: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of services and touch. Contact me to read more…
Please contact me for the 5 Love Languages Quiz to find out what your primary love language is.
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