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It feels so exciting to be heading into a new year. How is your vision for the year looking? Does it sound good? Is it feeling inspiring? How can you make sure that you stay on track for it and move forward effortlessly? Perhaps it’s feeling crystal clear for you, which is great. If you’re not sure, or sense you need to get clearer, give yourself time to do so.
Sometimes we can inadvertently trip ourselves up in the way we’re thinking about our vision which can get in the way of getting what we want. Here are some potential loopholes to look out for and avoid:

  • Not getting clear about your vision and what you want to achieve
  • Focusing on everything at once
  • Not taking the right kind of action
  • Not putting yourself first.
Here are some quick tips on getting clear and focused and putting yourself at the top of the list to get what you want in 2013. You are that important!
Get your vision clear
Like every year, I took some time on New Year’s Day to lay out my vision for the year. I do it a little differently each year. Sometimes it’s a vision board filled with wonderful pictures, sometimes it’s a mind map full of words and descriptions of my goals, and this year it was four key words defining my intentions for the year. Whatever your style, the trick is to actually do it!
For specific goals, be sure you can see clearly what you’d like to have happen. Paint a picture in your minds’ eye of the outcome you want. Visualisation can sound rather clichéd but it works! The reason good coaches are proponents of visualisation is that it is one of the most powerful methods for helping your brain truly map out your intentions for what you want to achieve. It begins organising your internal resources immediately – both consciously and unconsciously. As author Robert Collier says “visualise this thing you want. See it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin.” Seeing clearly what you want also creates a vibration that you by default send out to the universe which is busy organising its vast resources for you.

Focus on one thing
Focusing your mental and emotional resources in one direction at a time is a powerful way to create what you want in your life. Tony Robbins said “most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives”.
By nature I’m not a one-focus kind of gal – it’s a Sagittarian thing apparently! I more naturally focus on everything all at once and get excited by it all. This is also the structure of overwhelm and can leave us firing in many directions without having the impact we’d like. For some of you, focusing on one thing at a time comes naturally which makes this particular loophole much easier to avoid. For the rest of us, we need to make a conscious concerted effort to do so – and it pays off! Honing in on the 1-3 things that are most important to you (and then the one at the top of the list) helps you get really clear about what matters to you the most.
What is the one thing that, if you achieved or experienced it by the end of 2013, would mean you were happy and satisfied? 

Take valuable action
Make this the year you don’t get on the mouse wheel and just do, do, do. It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. Yes, take action, but do it mindfully. Use powerful questions to guide your choice around what action you take.  For example:
  • What is most important for me to spend time on?
  • What can I do today/this week that will make the biggest difference?
  • What is the next logical step?
 And take the time. Creating space in your day or your week for your most important goals is also a fabulous way of staying on track and giving yourself the time you need to make plans, take actions and re-focus when required. Often it’s about simply making appointments with yourself (yes, in your diary!) to make sure it happens.
Put yourself first
When we have goals and dreams we need to know we are important enough to go after them. It really is true that you are meant to follow your dreams. Last year it seemed I had one client after another who was so used to putting everyone and everything else first (and I mean everything – the kids, hubby, work, boss, staff, friends, parents, even the dog) that they had almost forgotten how to put themselves on the list (let alone first!).
Many of us learn at a very young age to put others first and it can be quite a process as an adult to back up the truck and put ourselves out in front. Often people will say, but that’s selfish. Selfish is having only you on the list. I believe that to be happy and healthy - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually - we must put ourselves first. That is you at the top of the list and everything else underneath, wherever possible. It’s not you or them, it’s you and them. When we feel we can put ourselves first we are much better at getting our needs met, are happier in ourselves and often nicer to be around!
Of course, life has its seasons when our time and energy gets focused in certain directions, whether it is on children, a business start-up or new relationship. But it also has to re-balance at some point. It’s helpful to bear in mind that we can start that re-balancing in small ways before the kids are all at school, or before you reach burn-out at work.
You absolutely deserve to achieve and enjoy the things you are looking forward to in 2013. Put yourself first - you are that important - and enjoy the journey!

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Submitted At: 21 January 2013 10:47am | Last Modified At: 7 February 2013 12:17am
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Karen Ross is a respected coach working with individuals to make sustained meaningful change. Discover fascinating new ways to achieve your goals and create the kind of life you want with transformational coaching. Learn practical strategies and skills that empower you to take control. Don't you owe it to yourself?!

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