WHAT YOU SAY, HOLDS TRUE
‘Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as
any sword,
but wisely spoken words can heal.’
Get aware of what you are saying.
Is what you are saying empowering to
you?……. and to others?
We all know how impressionable children can be. At an early age, the critical factor of the conscious mind is not completely formed, so a child tends to accept what is told to him/her. We often make the mistake of pointing out negative qualities in our child hoping that they will get aware of them and change. Get aware, they will; but if it is change you are looking for then start telling them otherwise. If you wish your child to be more responsible, acknowledge them each time they show a semblance of responsibility.
Don’t ever call them irresponsible or they
will believe it and be irresponsible.
An experiment was conducted with a group of school children. They were academically average performers but were told that they were being separated from the rest of the class because they had a very high level of intelligence. At the end of the year, these students performed dramatically well.
They say: ‘If you believe you can’t, you are right. If you believe you can, you can.’
And suggestions play an important role in
what you believe of yourself.
This is where affirmations come in. When you repeat things to yourself, you start
believing them to be true, which in turn makes you act differently. Affirmations are suggestions
to yourself.
In the same manner, the phrases that we habitually use (so carelessly), also affect us, mentally and physically. Don’t be surprised if you end up with a neck pain if you have been calling someone ‘a pain in the neck’.
We use metaphors all the time to create a visual picture or a better impression of what we are thinking or trying to say.
“I feel like a fish out of water.” Now, now.
Aren’t you exaggerating the discomfort…. just a wee bit?
Make a conscious decision, now, to use
metaphors that empower you. One of my favourites is: ‘We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust
the sails.’
Your words spell your attitude. Your attitude creates your ability.
One says “Let me do it for you” while the
other says “It’s not my job”.
The Winner says: “It may be difficult but
it’s possible.”
The Loser says: “It may be possible but
it’s too difficult.”
Which do you choose to be?
Don’t trust Proverbs – there is really no truth in them.
‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’
VERSUS ‘Out of sight, out of mind’
But proverbs and quotations are very
impressive, so pick the ones that make you feel empowered.
How’s this for a start: “Whatever you can
do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness
has genius, power and magic in it.” – Goethe.
In the techniques to Side Step Your
Upsets I have explained how we can take away the power
of our emotions by changing the word we use to describe our feelings.
Instead of saying: “I’m afraid this won’t
work”
we could say: “I am not very comfortable
with the idea”
Instead of telling yourself how ‘confused’
you are, you could be ‘curious.’
‘Frustrated’ could simply mean
‘challenged’.
Instead of ‘hating’ something, say what you
‘prefer’.
Not only can you reduce the bad feelings,
by changing the words you use, but can also use the same process to turbocharge
the positive feelings. Say you are
feeling ‘great’ when you feel ‘good’.
And when you are feeling confident, tell yourself you are ‘unstoppable’.
‘Okay’ can be ‘Perfect’ and ‘No Problem’ can become ‘Happy to…’.
You can describe a relationship break-up as
a ‘breakdown’ in your life or a ‘breakthrough’ for you. You decide: which is for you or against.
But it’s not all only about us. What are we telling others that might be
damaging to them? Would you like to be
with someone who made you feel good about yourself or bad? Instead of telling others what they are doing
wrong, you could tell them what they could do in the situation that might be
beneficial to them. Encouragement, appreciation and direction; now that’s empowering. And doesn’t it also make you feel good about
yourself?
Recognize the power of words. What you say creates an impression on
yourself and your surroundings. Your
word is your commitment.
There is one elementary truth,
The ignorance of which kills
countless ideas and splendid plans:
That
The moment one definitely commits
oneself,
Then providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one
That would never otherwise have
occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from
the decision,
Raising in one’s favour,
All manner of unforeseen incidents
and meetings and material assistance
Which no man could have dreamt would
have come his way.
So…..beware of what you say………
The Universe might respond to you with :
“Whatever you say.”
